@Jennifer 1967, I'm sorry to read about your kitty. Condolences to you and your mom. I do hope that something about the holidays brings at least a little light into your lives. Do stick to your guns about not being pushed beyond your limit with your brother. There comes a time when a family (and the family member themselves) must accept that assisted living is necessary.

@Moose72, if the tremors are really bad has your pdoc considered propranolol? It did wonders at calming my old Lithium tremors. It was a very small pill and didn't give me any side effects. And was inexpensive.