I didn’t need my dad. What children really need is at least one sane parent who shows up consistently. In some cases that is dad, but the majority of cases I’ve seen where one parent does the significant share (or everything) of child rearing, it’s the mother. I barely interacted with my dad unless I couldn’t avoid it once I was into my preteen years, as he wasn’t safe for me to get close to, physically or emotionally (not that he was emotionally available anyway).
There are men willing to be equal partners and be responsible for themselves, but while we’re being real here, they’re not in the majority. Society holds women to higher (and often unfair, sometimes even impossible) standards, also for lesser reward.
Of course you feel you need guidance, but I’d look at developing a broader perspective on who to get that from - think more along the lines of “wise elders” who are willing to offer advice without a hidden agenda.