I’m starting to see what you meant, re. adoption, though I secretly tried to deny it at first. As they say, the truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. I really should learn to just listen, trust but verify. If it were possible to download the collected wisdom inside another person’s brain and browse it at leisure then I might have asked. But I like having someone who isn’t my mum, boss or colleague to talk to, so I’m glad we can’t do that!