He doesn’t care how I feel because it’s just a power struggle for him. He just laughs, or makes excuses, or gets rude. he used to say he is just “passionate” until I stopped believing that was a thing. Usually he will deny how I feel. He just tells me to stop talking about him, or says I make things up, or mocks me, or tells me I’m a big baby and everyone should feel very sorry for me. He is very immature. I have told him how I feel, but he cannot ever care in real time. He’s never apologized. I made him apologize for something horrible he did, and it took like two or three years. I think he thinks that if he budges in a direction towards me in a dispute, then my little brain will start believing something that won’t be in his favor. So he’d rather bully and hide to control how I perceive him.
He has said “thanks for loving me and supporting me” (while he is in a bad spot).
When I tell him how I feel, he acts like he doesn’t care. But he will do things later or the next day to be “nice.” Or maybe it’s stuff he’d do anyway, so perhaps he is just moving on like nothing happened.
Whew I’m really venting. Thank you for asking and helping.