Thanks for sharing. A relative of mine is somewhat like this. It sucks

''He's never apologized''.... exactly!

''He'd rather bully and hide to control how I perceive him'' - exactly with this person also

One thing you shared - he has said ''thanks for loving me and supporting me'' when he is in a bad spot makes me think of something that a relative said once only..... such ''warmth'' in words (or in other ways) was very rare.