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nonightowl · Dec 19, 2021, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by will19

Does it upset you when someone offers to help you and then not deliver? I feel like that's happened to me a lot. And it's upsetting. I'd rather people not offer anything if I were suffering badly than to offer and not deliver. I would understand being with someone who's loaded with money; and if I needed help then that person never makes an offer. I prefer not to ask for help from anyone and I rarely do. Also I get upset when someone says that they will help but delays for some lame reason. It's not just about money it's other things as well such as; housework, going out somewhere, stuff they have I need that they could give me, etc.

I agree with Eskielover.

I don't trust people now until they earn it. And it's hard to do that when people keep letting me down.

I've had people say "Let me know if you need anything" but I wonder do they REALLY mean it or just say it cause they think I expect it.

I've also had people claim to be my "safety net" yet later say they don't remember saying it. How convenient, like it lets them off the hook since they don't remember it.

Like you I'd rather they not offer than offer and not mean it. Reminds me of that song by Joe South, The Games People Play.

"Oh the games people play now
Every night and every day now
Never meaning what they say now
Never saying what they mean"

There's a song with that name by The Spinners too but the message in it isn't quite the same. I love both songs though, as they are basically about not being able to connect to people.