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Originally Posted by RollercoasterLover
^^^^this. Times 100.
Abuse is a cycle. Our brain chemistry betrays us when trauma bonds exist. We have to train our brains to not be rewarded by the bits of "good" that linger. The reward of an apology, a promise, attention and intimacy is temporary.
In my experience, in those times when I couldn't afford therapy but needed support as I was retraining my thought processes and breaking my own cycle of abuse, I substituted therapy with al anon meetings. These free meetings gave me support and many times, got me through rough patches in refocusing my energy and retraining my thought process.
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Definitely and 100%.
What I've done in the past which REALLY helped was I joined abuse survivors women's facebook groups - these are free peer support forums specifically for abuse. That's where I first learned all about the trauma bond. Women can support one another and strengthen one another through the leaving and grieving process. These women frequently would offer online resources to help as well. I highly recommend seeking other help since you (OP) say you cannot afford therapy.