Hi Sunrise,

What a session! I also have big time attachment/boundary issues and struggle as you all know. Like chaotic, I have spent considerable time avoiding discussions of boundary issues and have only recently been able to engage in discussions that call for clarification. It's a difficult topic for me.

In the for what it's worth, here's my two cents: I think that when T mentioned that you could invite anyone, you were immediately thrown into a transference. The exchange with T about the karate graduation allowed you to recall and begin to work through the pain of not having your mother at soccer games. I just think it's so amazing that this kind of healing can occur in the context of the relationship with T.

The fact of T actually attending your "graduation" is your boundary. You are entitled to your own boundaries, and are not obligated to discuss this again with him if you don't want to. Of course it might be interesting to see what you could work through engaging in a conversation about this. However, don't think I'm so brave--I'd probably avoid it myself.

In this session you mentioned twice (the hug and the self defense event) that T wanted "more." It might be worth exploring what this means to you.

(((sunny)))