Thanks everyone for the feedback. He originally didn’t do marriage counseling that day because he completely forgot what was all scheduled for that day, and he said he was too worked up to do it.

As it turned out, he went inpatient right after this for a week. He’s back home now, different meds, tightened up diagnosis, has one individual therapy session done, and we did one marriage counseling session same day he got home, and he starts intensive outpatient treatment soon. He will do addiction treatment as well.

He says a light has come on for him I think because of dbt stuff he learned inpatient, and I guess his overall experience inpatient, although it’s not his first time there.

I have asked him a few things already that I’d like him to do for him and us, and he’s done them so far. He seems to be listening to my input and using his new found skills. I don’t think it will stick without iOp and continued counseling.

I can’t stick up for the past—other than I did my best in the relationship. He hasn’t done his best for sure, but says he wants to going forward.

Im trying to process everything.