We had a great session today, with a small reminder of the progress I have made since last year. Thanks for also confirming my suspicions over mum putting herself down - I know my therapy isn’t about her, well I guess not directly, but we both suffered negative consequences of dad’s behaviour and I wish she would be willing to untangle her own skein and get better. Even now dad’s gone, I’m too tired of being in the situation, or at least of trying to shake off the phantoms, to give anything ‘above and beyond’ to her right now. Is that even my job anyway?
I do think she realises, deep down, what happened to her but she’s minimising it all. I’m just sad that she didn’t see she deserved better.
I can only be responsible for myself, though.