What I do that helps me? I make a list of all the things this person did to me that were wrong or hurtful and of all the traits that they portrayed that were toxic and/or harmful to me. Then I make a separate list of all the qualities I need and want in a person and of all the qualities that make a healthy relationship. Then I compare the two lists, and typically, it's far easier to see the difference between the two types of people described when it's written in black and white writing in lists of qualities. I have revisited these lists often to remind myself of what I DO deserve and truly want.......

So, if you want to stay focused on healing and on moving forward, this is one suggestion that may help.