Fuzzy thank you for the validation. I'm not 100% sure she is a user, per-se, though I do wonder, and her behavior, to me, anyway, seems that way, and if not, it's puzzling as well as upsetting. I know she goes through ebbs and flows with closeness. But being who I am, I am done with this kind of behavior. She's not allowed back in. That being said, she works at my local yarn shop, so I will see her from time to time. It will be nice to see her of course. But I will have to put my foot down / set a boundary, if she ever asks to get together again. I know I will struggle with what to say. Because if I say "I'm busy..." she'll say "Oh! What are you up to?" The next time I talk to my therapist, I can ask her how to respond. If you know of any good responses...I'm open to hearing about them.


I forgot I'd said that I was "thinking of not saying anything and just letting her go," and was going to come back on here to at least say that I've decided that yes, that is what I will do for now. Because I really can't imagine saying something to her and it going well. I think my time is better spent looking for new friends and ways to make my life fulfilling in ways that make sense to me.


Anywho, thank you for your response Fuzzy! Most people probably saw how long this was and exited out, lol.