It has to be me then. I guess I have too much trust or I know that crazy woman I married 35 years ago so well that I just know she would never do something like that. I think if she did have a cyber affair, (If there is such a thing), I wouldn't be too emotional about it. I would want to know why or how words on a screen could have that much effect on her to cause her to want to end our marriage.

I have been in relationship counseling for over 20 years and I talk on the phone and online to men and women about their sexual problems. I have never felt like I wanted to have a physical relationship with them. I have been flirted with by women and I like a good flirt but, that is as far as it goes. I guess I'm a bit stronger than most men, I don't know.

I know that I have had my own problems in marriage but, not to the point of having an affair in the past 25 years. I did have one that lasted a few months and another that was for 2 years. This was before computers.

I think that if you love your husband very much then there is hope for a reconsiliation. Think of your children and how much your husband has committed himself to change.
Is there no forgiveness? Can't you seek counsel and heal the rift in your marriage? If you truly love him then give him another chance to prove to you that he will not do what you think is a betrayal again. Why throw it all away?

I was always grateful that my wife gave me another chance.
Everyone can make mistakes. Pehaps you can find it in your heart and spirit to give a little forbarence.

Good luck you both of you,