I’m sorry to read about this Wovengalaxy, it does sound like you were really close at one time. I was wondering if you felt a bit exposed in some way, like you had given a bit of yourself (your confidences and trust) and then she faded away leaving you possibly wishing you hadn’t confided? I’m asking that because that’s how I probably would have felt, but I’m very slow and cautious with trust. To me it would be a big deal if I felt that closeness and someone faded out on me suddenly. I mean, friendships do ebb and flow, and sometimes they naturally fade, but where there’s been trust and confidences I would personally have much higher investment and feel exposed if they faded out.

I think I might know what you mean about wanting to have the opportunity to not exactly get back, but have a say in where this is going, might be a fairer way to word it. I think that’s okay, to say you’re busy, maybe refer to your studies, something positive like that. I’m taking you’re wanting to keep the door open, just downgrade your investment (time and emotionally) in this friendship?

Lastly, what you say, friends for different purposes, I’ve known people like that and it’s just how they are, but IMO it’s not flattering to find out you’re scheduled as someone’s Friday afternoon diversion or whatever. Idk if that happened here, but it does happen sometimes.