If you see someone going through a truly difficult time; a health issue, illness of a child, loss of a loved one, and you reach out to them because you feel for them, and they say

"Don't feel sorry for me."

"Don't pity me."

What are you supposed to do?

What does that even mean?

I got this recently when talking to someone and I said, "I know your family got together for Christmas and they excluded you. I've been worried about you and want to make sure you're ok."

The person admitted it was really hard but then said this stuff quite defensively.

Jeez.... I've been through some bad times. I'd have appreciated it if someone saw it and reached out to. I've not forgotten those who did.

Can any of you shed some light on this?

RDMercer