I know what you mean about being scared and saddened. Watching my mother pass was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Knowing that she is in a better place helps, but nothing can take away the heartache.

I think you are so brave and caring to help care for her while she is in such a vulnerable state. I don't think it's fair for them to not let her go to the hospital. I couldn't imagine not having had my mom in the hospital as her organs failed one by one. They kept her out of pain with meds as she was passing. My mom had a DNR, too....but not a NOT going to the hospital!

I sure hope you know that you are not alone, you can come here for lots and lots of hugs. Coming here and having support has helped me deal with my mom and I hope it helps with your friend.



BJ