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nonightowl · Dec 28, 2021, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by will19

I feel like I'm not good at it myself. I prefer and feel like I do better with live people than online. But having live people in my life isn't feasible right now. Even in having a disagreement, I feel that I can resolve it better in person than online and over the phone. I feel like I'm not great on the phone, either.

I have started some threads on here and did not receive many replies. So that made me feel bad and fearful to try again. And then I worry if someone is going to be upset with me with what I had to say. And I'm hesitant to reply to someone whom I don't agree with because I prefer not to have a confrontation; in which we'd volley back and fourth to each other.

It's fortunate for me that this is a good and safe place to go. I've been on other forums and they were bad. They were judgmental and patronizing. And then there would be the trolls to deal with. There doesn't seem to be trolls on here.

I see you posted while I was just ranting below.

Like you I prefer face to face friends or phone calls. But I just don't have anyone like that now. Before it was flimsy at best.

And I don't start discussions anymore. I tried to do a "buddy read" on a site for bookworms, but nobody responded. (Buddy reading is reading a book with someone, then discussing it afterwards) That was years ago. I also stopped writing reviews because I got so few "likes". I don't even know why that feature is necessary.

It isn't good for one's self-esteem. Why do some people get 157 likes and I don't even get ONE? Why spend time writing? I could be reading.

I've seen there's a lot of unanswered threads. I'm NOT undermining you by any means, as it happened to me too.

I see it on other sites too.

I avoid sites where one can put a "dislike" or "thumbs down" under one's post. I don't need that.

But there's a site where I write reviews of cosmetics. And it has that feature. Some have given me a thumbs down. Not fun, but writing about a lipstick is not like spilling my guts about something.

I've had people respond to me once then never again, on sites. Why reply at all if you're going to not reply anymore? Why act like you want to talk to me, then stop??? I've had that happen in real life, I don't need it on here too.