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Originally Posted by will19
I feel like I'm not good at it myself. I prefer and feel like I do better with live people than online. But having live people in my life isn't feasible right now. Even in having a disagreement, I feel that I can resolve it better in person than online and over the phone. I feel like I'm not great on the phone, either.
I have started some threads on here and did not receive many replies. So that made me feel bad and fearful to try again. And then I worry if someone is going to be upset with me with what I had to say. And I'm hesitant to reply to someone whom I don't agree with because I prefer not to have a confrontation; in which we'd volley back and fourth to each other.
It's fortunate for me that this is a good and safe place to go. I've been on other forums and they were bad. They were judgmental and patronizing. And then there would be the trolls to deal with. There doesn't seem to be trolls on here.
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I've been on both the receiving and giving end of judgments. I am trying to work on that though. I'm glad you're here and posting what you can! I, too, do better in person than by phone, email, text, or online. There's something more with the nonverbal gesture communication that is less threatening to others whenever we have disagreements than when seeing my words or hearing my phone voice, for some reason.
I've been on those kinds of groups before where they were very judgmental and patronizing. I had to quickly leave such groups. Decades ago, I used to be an admin on one of those groups, but I left. The arguments that some of the admins can get into behind the scenes was pretty narly and hostile.