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Originally Posted by Rive.
I am curious why you are spending so much time and energy analysing this guy's situation. He might not be a closeted gay. He may be pansexual etc. He clearly doesn't feel comfortable being put in a box and labelled. I don't understand your involvement and focus in trying to figure out the 'why' re this guy's orientation, lifestyle and his choices in life?! That is his stuff.
What is more relevant is whether you want to continue engaging with him or not.
His choices are his to make. His issues are his to disclose, or not. Let him figure his life out and not be so overly focused on analysing him. Likewise, you don't have to answer any of his personal questions if you do not wish to.
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Thank you Rive for your reply.
I think it's natural for anyone who has encouraged bizarre behavior from someone to get others perspective.
I pondered whether to even bother spending the time to reach out to others for friendly advice. It's just that the whole situation seems so bizarre that I needed to hear other's perspective.
I've never met anyone who shifts back and forth between sexual identities and personality like that. Remember at first he admitted he was gay and or bisexual then denied it, but insisted that I admit that I have a label. I honestly don't care about how he lives his life.
The bigger question that was weighting on my mind and what sparked this post - Is this an indication that he may have some sort of mental instability? Is it a sign to proceed with caution? I don't know.
But in any regard it's not as if I am going to lose sleep over it.
As a side note, after he
abruptly hung up the phone to talk to his wife I sent a friendly greeting text message wishing him and his family a happy new year etc.
Nothing back. Not a word.
Courtesy and kindness are traits instilled upon me at a young age. I would never just hang up on someone to take another call. If I absolutely had too I would polity end the call and call the person back. So if someone reaches out to spark a friendship but yet but acts with aloofness and a sense of disregard it's disappointing and off-putting.