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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
So to me, the only thing that jumps out at me as potentially being inappropriate was her pulling down the strap of her shirt (and leaving it that way) at your request. Especially knowing that you are attracted to her. I felt uncomfortable reading that part.
The perfume could potentially be coincidence. With the hug, I know that some T's hug (my ex-T, who was female, sometimes hugged me, also a female, but it was somewhat of a maternal thing, definitely not attraction on my part). Can I ask what sort of thing she gave you as a gift though? Feel free to PM me if you don't want to post publicly.
The conversation about oral sex, that seems like her shifting your comment about her back to more of a clinical therapy perspective about your outside life. And it's good that she wasn't shaming you for them.
However, like I said, I find pulling her shirt down to be concerning. It's good she didn't let you take a picture. Though that seems like a time that maybe she should have otherwise addressed boundaries? Even if she waited until the next session (I suspect this would have been a painful conversation for you).
As for what you should do about it...I'm not sure. It may have just been a momentary lapse of judgment on her part. Maybe just see how things go in the next session?
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I don't mind replying here, we're from another country where most people don't speak English nor read these types of forums. She gave me a blue bird origami, she said she was thinking of me and made it (because I love "birding" and my favorite bird is that color). I think it was meant to be a "transitional object" but she never said it directly, it was a Christmas gift.
The hug thing is fine too in my country, specially in a "quick shoulder hug" way, but it lingered for a while (I'd say 5 seconds more or less) and she held me REALLY tight, I don't think anyone has ever hugged me in that way, I couldn't breathe. And what I thought was weird was this physical intimacy while she's well aware that I'm attracted to her. I wouldn't think it was weird if it was a more informal hug or if she didn't know about my attraction. I was expecting her to say that hugging me would feed into my feelings or something.