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That is exactly why I was seeing my psychologist. I didn't want to burden my friends (no family) with my processing of what I had dealt with before leaving my previous life. I felt ok saying things over again in the processing because she could help me put it into perspective & validate what I had gone through & help me on the things that I was struggling to get through. One thing I did learn from her intense DBT group therapy was to understand "RADICAL ACCEPTANCE" It is kinda the "let it go" thinking but for me it had a twist in my situation. When you accept something for what it is at the moment, it gives your mind the ok to subconsciously be aware & to bring it back into the conscious if something changes to rethink it without ruminating on it.
It is normal when something unbalances us & we take some kind of action, to think on it on & off for a little while during the time we process what happened.
It is just better to have a neutral party like a paid therapist to talk things over with rather than putting the burden on friends or family from my own personal experience. I will summarize with friends so they know what is happening but will not go over & over with them while I process it
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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