Hey (((KW)))

I've done a lot of searching about gender issues so I'm aware of how she may feel. It's scarey too I am sure for it telling her - one just doesn't know how she will handle it. For onr thing, this has been something that you have had to deal with over an extended amount of time so it would be unreasinable to expect her to deal with it over night.

In my research, I've found that some women just can't deal with it at all, and others come to be supportive of their spouse. I think, it all comes down to your present relationship and that if she really loves you, then she will deal.

And you know too, that telling her your darkets secret could very well show her how much you love her - for her to know that you trusther that much.

I've had some disasterous results from being honest, and once they learned I dressed - that was the end of our relationship. But those were girlfriends and not spouses, and when I reflect back - I am better off not having them in my life since we disagreed on the subject.

And then ... I've had others eager to help me too, so it all comes down to the person. So I think, when it comes down to your wife - you know her best.

Lot's of luck to you sweetie

Sam