This "friend" just messaged me with a list of excuses why she didn't join in on my virtual FB video call. She claims "video calls" weird her out, yet she has no problem posting videos of her with her dogs on her FB page. She also waited until the last sentence to write, "sorry if I hurt your feelings," which comes across like an afterthought. After her long list of excuses, a short "sorry IF I hurt your feelings," as though to claim she doesn't think she did hurt my feelings, with the "IF".

A real friend wouldn't have just been a no-show. Or at the very least respected my feelings enough to reach out to say she didn't want to participate in the video call, then make the choice of wishing me a happy birthday and validating the friendship with "I'm so glad we're friends," qualify that she respects my friendship.

What's the best response other than no response? I really am pissed now.