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Originally Posted by divine1966
It would be nice if she showed up or gave you heads up but that didn’t happen. I’d try not to be overly upset especially since she did reach out and apologize
I’d say since you don’t really know her well (only met once at an event awhile back and after that just communicated on FB), you don’t really know what’s going with her. She might not be comfortable to share but maybe she had a panic attack, upset stomach, marital problems, work issue, was depressed about something, her house was too messy for virtual chats, too tired, was wearing a pajama, didn’t take shower today and hair was messy, had a fight with her cousin, reprimanded at work etc
Ton of things could happen that prevents one from joint virtual chats especially with almost strangers. I spend a lot of time on virtual platforms and know how many people are uncomfortable especially doing it from home
Now if it was close family member or long term close friend, I’d see how it’s hurtful but this person seems to be an acquittance rather than a real close friend who owes you an explanation .
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All the excuses or reasons in the world why she chose not to participate in my birthday call that she initially proposed with the other acquaintances (it was HER idea to begin with) don't justify her ghosting me the way that she did.
Everyone who has responded in this thread is focused on her possible excuses or reasons and is completely dismissing the core issue here: respect.
Her lack of respect of my feelings is the core issue here. It doesn't matter how long we know each other.
Plus, she was the one who came up with the virtual birthday call to begin with. So, when she offered the lame excuse of how virtual calls weird her out, that really upset me because it's clear that she is lying through her teeth. Why suggest a virtual birthday call if you don't like those?!
Her lack of respect is the core issue here. Obviously, no one thinks 'respect' is important except for me in this thread. Instead, everyone insults me. Yeah, not the way to offer advice here. Just my two cents.
All she had to do was email me ahead of time that she wasn't going to be on the virtual call out of respect for my feelings. You don't have to be best friends with someone to show them respect. People show respect to complete strangers all the time.
So, respect is the issue for me. I don't care about her excuses or reasons for why she chose to ghost me at the last minute. And, I'm not responsible for her choices, which everyone seems to think I am, who have responded here.