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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
I am sorry that the virtual gathering you set up did not go the way you wanted. When it comes to getting people to be present at a gathering it’s actually typical that some don’t show up. This is something I have seen people experience quite a bit over my years of providing entertainment.
Some people fall short and there is not much you can say to change that. Basically this speaks out about them not you. It’s often a waste to expect a genuine regret because if the person had that in them in the first place they would have spoken up sooner. And if you force it chances are you will end up getting some gaslighting type response that only adds more insult.
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I did not set up the virtual birthday gathering. Obviously, I did not make that clear in my OP. She did. Then she ghosted without showing me any respect by explaining why she wasn't going to be there.
This is about respect. Like I previously posted, you can show a complete stranger respect. She could have chosen to show me respect but she chose not to do that. Instead, she had fun posting silly videos of her dogs on her FB page while my virtual birthday call was going on (time stamps on her FB posts showed this).
And her long winded email was all about her - which someone who respects my feelings would not have written. If she really respected my feelings or valued my friendship - new as it is - she would have emailed me before the FB virtuall call to validate my friendship with a quick, nice message and apology.
What she wrote instead was all about her, leaving the least sentence for a quick disingenuous apology "sorry IF you felt I hurt your feelings." She was not interested in taking responsibility for her choices or her message to me would not have 100% been about her, which it was.
Anyway, I deleted her from my FB so the issue is moot now. I have zero time for ********.