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This is just my opinion- I am not gay just surrounded by open self loving gay friends and family. They have all told me at least one story of a coworker or aquaintance "thinking" they knew that my friend or family member was gay and boldly asking. And then following up with similar comments or conversations about how "open" their marriages were, how understanding they were and how they shrugged labels and wanted to be who they were. In each of those stories it was followed by direct or implied requests/invitations to fool around as if my friend or family member was there to help them figure things out or to have sex with and lead what they consider to be an acceptable lifestyle- or because they were curious. In these instances my friends and family members felt that they were being 'felt out' to see if they were waiting around for a date or sex partner. They felt like they were being judged purely for the sex that the'straight' person imagined they were having, and that they were part of a long buried fantasy. Aside from the rude question about marriage, gay or straight, etc. That is what these people in my life have shared with me.
AND- who's business is it whether anyone is married or has kids, is single, gay-whatever. We dont walk up to straight couples and ask why they are married. Dont get me started on people who think its fine to ask why someone doesnt have children. I say this as a married woman with three kids- asking isnt anyone's business.
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