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Old May 23, 2008, 04:28 PM
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i know that different parts of me hold very very different feelings towards my mum. one holds good feelings and others hold bad feelings. the conflicting viewpoints makes it very difficult and confusing and i think it also causes some self hate.

I find it important to recognise that different parts will feel different things towards her and to listen to and respect each of those feelings/viewpoints. accepting that each of the feelings are real and valid have good reason for beingthere.

it is hard, but can be done.

when i have stressors like you do, i find it imporant to try to help my parts before i try to help others. self care is very important.

sending you some warm thoughts ~ ~ ~ ~
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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