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CANDC · Jan 13, 2022 at 12:33 PM

@Yuzumi I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like it has been a traumatic event in your life. Grief and crying are natural response but I think you are becoming aware that you can not keep on like this forever.

I cannot tell you what you should do but I can tell you what I might do in your situations.

Splash cold water on my face. This helps clear the eyes of tears and can make me alert
Take a shower and wash my hair. When I am crying and staying in bed toxins are being excreted through the skin. If I do not wash them away they may be reabsorbed by the body.
Have a glass of juice or some soup to break your fast. Later as I tolerate it, I would have soft food and work up to solid food. Protein helps my brain cope with stress, either animal or vegetable, whichever is available although I tend towards vegetable.
Start to move and get some fresh air. Maybe I would take a walk or do some gentle yoga moves.
Keep a notebook handy so if something comes into my mind I can write it down.
I would start doing one thing that needs to be done every day like do the dishes or do cleaning.
Do a gratitude journal when I feel able to to appreciate the wonderful relationship that I experienced.
Start healthy self care routines.
Join an online grief support group
Find a therapist that specializes in grief if available.
Talk to family and friends and get involved in life again
Smile at myself in the mirror. The muscles that control smiling send signals to the brain that are interpreted as feeling good.

These are things I would do. My moods shift every day but I try to find ways to get what needs to be done, done. This helps me not focus on myself and my grief.

Eventually I like to reach out to other people and start to focus on helping other people. It seems counterintuitive but by not focusing on my grief and sorrow and by helping others cope with their challenges, I actually feel better and my life starts to have meaning again.

Hope you get the support you need. @CANDC