What a horrible burden to bear! I suffer from bad anxiety but luckily medication has helped me. I am on Celexa and Buspirone. It took me it seems like forever to find something that helped. Those were agonizing years. And with anxiety the overwhelming pain goes on hour by hour, minute by minute and second by second. I wish I knew what to say that would help you. It is terrible when you want to be helpful to someone and you just don't know how. People unafflicted with anxiety have idea how burdensome it is . . . crushingly burdensome. Forgive me for not knowing how to help. My heart really goes out to you!