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eskielover · Jan 15, 2022, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Sohappy

My friend disappointed me in that we both bought expensive art supplies and I thought we could learn to use them together.....

Then I realized she had no intentions of using her supplies until she was good.....

I explained to her that sketching doesn't have to be 100% accurate and we have to learn the coloring process as much as the drawing. And she disappointed me in that she was going to use her student paints 🎨 and not the ones we bought. And I didn't understand why she was saying she didn't want to waste her paints.....

I knew I can't blame her. It's her opinion. I don't need to work with anyone. I am mad but the anger is in me in not being strong enough to just do it myself and use the color paints and stop being afraid.

Everything in my life is conflicting..... I can't cope with rude people or being micromanaged and talked down to for not doing tasks exactly as they expect.

Hmmmm, sounds to me like you are doing the micromanaging of your friend when she doesn't do tasks exactly as you expect her to do. She has freedom to choose EXACTLY how she wants to do her art.

Emotions are to be acknowledged but not necessarily acted on. Learning skills to regulate emotions & our responses to them is a section in DBT (Therapy) & very useful because it helps us become less dysfunctional when interfacing with others. Understanding our emotions is IMPORTANT. Understanding how to respond to them is just as important. It took me several years of therapy to actually learn these skills well

This describes some of what is involved in that Emotional Regulation section
http://"https://dbt.tools/emotional_...ion/index.php"