Only one problem Molinit. My brother has known my daughter was a senior in high school for many months. So why did he not think about her graduation? This isn't some random family picnic that I planned out of the blue. But as you said, I will "let it go". And I walk away from this enlightened as to how to treat my brother and his planned events going forward. At the end of the day, I only want people who care and want to be there to attend. The rest can pound sand.