You are not hearing me here, just as you are not hearing him. You are not seeing the forest for the trees.

E.g., the forest is get lost. A tree is while he is playing video games. There is a whole forest of him telling you to get lost. He doesnt take care of you when you are sick. Etc etc etc. You are picking off one tree at a time, then wondering why you are lost in a forest. Maybe one tree said marry me at one time. Its not a forest of marry me.