Dear T,
A couple years ago, I'd have been bothered by what you said regarding thoughts/worrying about clients after their session time. But I get it. I know you sort of dismissed my comment regarding friends and relatives as being a different sort of thing, because you generally don't need to "worry" about them. But I think it's similar. I can care very much about, and even love someone, even if I don't spend that much time actively thinking about them.

I think this speaks to my having gained security in the relationship. And also maybe to how I view relationships in general, not just therapeutic--that I don't need to feel like someone is thinking--or worrying, to use your word--about me all the time to feel that they care. And in fact, it's probably a healthier relationship--well, not counting parent-child. Or, say, if someone is actively ill.

You're probably expecting an email from me about this. And it's possible that my feelings will shift later today. Even if they do, I still think the fact that my immediate thought wasn't a feeling of rejection or something similar is significant.

Love,
LT