Thanks Jello & Sunny,

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You care and he cares.

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really nice that he asked your permission.

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if I don't think I'm getting my money's worth, I'll go elsewhere

It sounds to me like MissCharlotte is getting her money's worth. And then some!

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Yeah that permission part was funny wasn't it? I spoke with him on the phone this morning for about 20 minutes or so. It was not an easy conversation but it was fruitful. I just kept telling him how I felt. Finally, I recaptured myself and I told him about the dream! I told him that I believe it represents a longing, desire for intimacy. Jeeze I can't believe I said that. Now I can never face him on Tuesday can I?

Yeah I get my money's worth....I used your line tooo (above)

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Don’t be surprised if your adolescent reminds you of your two year old because some of the same issues of identity, of "who am I?" are being worked out all over again. No longer children, not yet adults, not happy to be defined by family members, adolescence can be a lonely time for some.

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I found this in an article on child development that I was reading. I think it is my problem. I have figured out that the child within (self state, ego state whatever) who is so upset is in this age group. It was a time of emotional upheaval for me. How can I nurture her, love her and let her be with me while at the same time observe her and be my mature self? OMG it is so hard. This is the work of the integration. As far as I am concerned the only way out is through because I will never go through this again. Yesiree folks, a once in a lifetime opportunity, step right up!

Sigh