Yes Etcetera1, it confirms my initial thought: he just does not nice a very nice guy let alone a good partner.

It's like you are trying to justify or make excuses for his appalling behaviours by saying 'it's not that bad' or 'there is improvement'. Reading your posts, it just seems a pretty bad relationship where you are the only one trying to put any work in... no wonder you are so angry. But the fact remains, with all your trying, you are just not met.

An average / mediocre relationship is not the norm and is not worth staying in.