I said that I would, even though I haven't, because pretty much any topic is something to explore if it's on my mind and seems important. For whatever reason, my sexuality is one of the few aspects of my life that doesn't trigger toxic shame. And for what it's worth, I don't think there is anything wrong with fantasizing about somebody besides one's spouse. You are not defined by your thoughts, including your sexual thoughts. Thoughts and actions are very different things.

That seems like a good reason to discuss it!