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Wow this is a loaded thread (I say that with positive vibes). I cant speak to all of it but I do have some thoughts. Do you have a mental health disorder or have you been diagnosed with a mental illness? The reason I ask is that personally I feel therapy alone in those circumstances isnt necessarily enough. I believe medication can be a good, possibly life saving adjunct to therapy. Without regurgitating what you have been told or heard from other therapists, what is it you want out of therapy? Its ok to sound fantastical, I am not going to judge. Do you wish to be free of all your flaws and become a more perfect human? Do you wish to let go of your anger? Do you wish to become strong enough to leave your a-hole boyfriend? Do you wish to deal with long buried/childhood issues? Or do you simply want to deal with recent stuff, the here and now? Personally I do not think therapy has to deal with childhood issues, trauma or bad parents and abuse. For some, those issues have been put to rest. Some people need situational therapy like couples counseling. Some people want to make changes in their life but dont know what or how.
Some want to make their relationships better, or at least tolerable. I personally believe in most cases therapy has a shelf life. It can be different for everyone. For me it was 16 years with the same man and we were practically hanging out-yet he got to bill my insurance. There were some brief boundary issues so I ended it. That was 11 years ago and only the last 3 have we been seeing a family therapist. I feel that there are unethical therapists out there who will take advantage of vunerable clients in order to keep them as clients. Therapists can be sick too. I would be willing to bet there are some pretty sick therapists out there. This isnt to say that there arent people who have suffered horrendous trauma and abuse, or have DID and many alters that may need therapy forever. That isnt my call. I think a good therapist knows when the therapy has reached its peak and not very much more growth will happen.
I would be really unhappy if I was labeled in a nasty way like you seemed to have been. BUT I also would turn it over quite a bit in my mind to see if there was any truth in it.
There can be truth in uncomfortable things that therapists and other professionals say but it doesnt mean you are a terrible person. I know there is more I want to add but I need to think about it some more.
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