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Originally Posted by poshgirl
I've recently become more assertive too. Etcetera1's post is excellent.
I'm in my sixties and for many years have endured my mother's poor behaviour. Last year, I reacted and we're only now starting to rebuild the relationship. It will never be good; it wasn't before anyway.
To me, it took the pandemic and the advice of a new friend, to realise that I was not a doormat. However, it's harder to make improvements when dealing with family. There's a mental block because of being blood relatives.
The choice is clear. Do you go on being the subject of criticism/ridicule or change so that you assert who you are. In my case, another problem has been the lies told and incorrect assumptions made about who I am and what I'm doing. I'm a person in my own right and will not be trampled on by others who want to control.
Stay true to yourself and continue the good work  |
Yes, I subscribe your words, with family is harder to set boundaries because you grew up with them but I totally agree with you that you always have to stand for yourself because other way, your health is at risk and we have to keep our health fit for ourselves and for the ones who really care.
Just, last Christmas I had to put a stop to my brother after he screwed things with me. Nothing new on his part but this time, I made things clear once and for all. 👍