What a difficult and utterly heartbreaking situation!

It must be so difficult for you weighing the pros and cons of all the courses of action you are considering. Seems like you are looking at things with perspective and balance.

I don't know what I would do if I was in your shoes. I am someone who has trouble with emotions and clear thinking.

Seems like you are being faced with agonizing decisions. The whole situation must be incredibly hard on your children too. Wish I knew what to say to help but I am really at a loss.