Thank you, will be checking this out.

Well, the thing with the pills is..... We were in a foreign country, and when he ran out of the pills, he had new ones mailed to his friend whose wedding we were going to. But then I find out quite a few days later only that he has been putting off talking to his friend about meeting to get the pills from him.

The weirdest ever thing is: We had a terrible argument, as I said, when I was trying to wave that white flag, he ignored it, I got very upset and then he thought I was going to break his laptop and I had to ground him as he got so upset about that.

And then we had a crappy argument but that was less terrible. He snapped at me that I need anger management classes, I tell him I will go happily if he will go with me too, and take them himself. Then we talk about couples therapy. I express I am glad to do this with him.

The argument kinda dies down a bit of time after that.

A few moments later he's just being weird and sad, and he says he feels everything is pointless.

And then a few minutes later he is writing to his friend about the pills and about meeting and going out and doing things with me invited too.

And then he started doing something productive other than video gaming or scrolling his phone all day. He used to do network engineering/coding but he always jumps to a new company when he finds the company too stagnating, and last year he had a big success, and he now feels he can afford not working for a while. Plus he was starting to not like the company either, so he quit a couple months ago.

So when these things happened, I felt like I got a glimpse of his old self.

Which mind you, wasn't great either in the relationship with me, but it's not the new crazy stuff.

So I just don't understand why the horribly big conflict led to him being a bit better. But only for a short time because he still berated me for the blocked toilet later and for getting stranded in the city.

So I'm perfectly well aware that he and/or our relationship is still downhill if it goes on like this. And I don't want to go there.