I’d not worry about what other men do every day. Mine doesn’t. But it’s neither here nor there. Yours sounds like he really wants to keep doing it. He just hides it better. Him paying money to direct interact with women would fall into cheating for me. Plus using porn on child’s computer falls into child neglect and abuse for me. I’d sure not want more kids with him and him having all this going on in the same house with me.

You have to decide what’s acceptable for you.