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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul
Yep,I can understand you,down and lonely. My freeze response leaves me frustrated and unjustified specially when I didn't do anything to warrant other's anger.When others use me just to unload for no apparent reason.And the anger that results in me because of unjust behaviour of others,I become responsible for processing in a healthy way.I also do not use others to unload my anger. It really is a hard work trying to process our own negative emotions in a healthy manner and not to use people as proxies.
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Same here, if I’m yelled at for no reason, I am more likely to freeze. It has me feeling frustrated, wishing I could tell them the truth and to stop. Now if they’re just being sarcastic, I actually do have a bit more guts to say something depending on who it is. I’ve gotten a little more assertive in that aspect, not insulting them or yelling back but just simply telling them that I didn’t do anything and politely ask them to stop their behavior and then walk away.