I guess they can be red flags to some? If they are to you, then they are. You have a right to your boundaries and if you feel they've been crossed, then they have been.

L and I would do all of those things except tell me I'm her favorite or follow me in any social media. She does read my threads on here, but only if I share them with her. Then again, both L and I are both female.

I understand you're attached, however if these things bother you, you should definitely bring them up. If he's a good T, he'll welcome the discussion of boundaries. I know it will be hard. Maybe somehow take baby steps to test the waters?