With my T, it's something he used to say at times as a goodbye, before the pandemic. He had a whole collection of phrases that I swear he just pulled at random. Some were fine, like "Good luck out there" was oddly charming.

But sometimes he would just say, "Enjoy!" And it was completely disconnected from the session, like I could have been talking about how horribly depressed I am or about dreading something that was coming up in the next week, and his parting words would be, "Enjoy!" (I did talk to him about this a couple times, but he said once that he doesn't think about what he says at the end, and another time, he said he thinks it can be good to part on a hopeful note.)

One small positive thing to come out of the pandemic is that he has stopped saying random parting words. He says things very tuned to the tone of the session or to what might be coming up. Like this past weekend was kind of rough, and at the end of session yesterday, he said, seeming very sincere, "I hope your next couple days are better." He's also specifically wished that a particular upcoming thing goes well. It feels like he's paying attention and reading the mood of the room (well, computer screen, as we've been virtual much of the time). Hopefully that element will stick when (if?) we resume in person.

For ex-marriage counselor, one immediately came to mind. I would talk about a fight H and I had, and he would just say, "But you got through it." I could talk about how hard it was or how it's an issue that comes up again and again--like, hm, maybe it's something we need to address more in depth? Or how awful I felt about some things that were said. But his emphasis would be on, "You got through it." Like, the marriage survived, I survived, H survived. I just never found it to be helpful, and I even cut him off a couple times when he started saying it, like "I know you're about to say, 'You got through it,' but that's not the point right now."