It's now several years since I was left and terminated by a therapist who meant very much to me and whom I liked very much. As my grief and sadness over it all isn´t as bad as it was then I did some brief googling on this therapist.

She worked within church and we met in church and had our sessions there. She was religious and believed in God. When I met with her I got the impression that she had been working within church for a long time and that she shared Christian values. To me that means you don´t strive for a lot of money, you don´t exploit others for money and you live a rather sparsely life, not spending a lot of money on "unnessesary" things.

But as I see it now it was her therapist persona that partly fooled me. I got very surprised and a little "chocked" that this therapist had worked within the financial business and within the restaurant business. She was, according to business info online, still a board member in one of the most exclusive restaurants in Sweden. I also saw she had went to one of the most expensive restaurants in Stockholm with her husband.

This doesn´t at all go together with how she showed herself to me when I met with her. I thought she lived a rather simple life and didn´t strive to earn a lot of money or go to fancy resturants.

I truly believe that I and perhaps others really get fooled by our how our therapist present themselves through their "therapist personas". If we knew what they were really like, we had probably seen a lot that don´t go together with our own values or how we look upon life.

It´s not that my former therapist can´t be a good therapist because of her background but to me it´s all about the wholeness of a person. For me who live a lonely life, living a rather poor life economically don´t relate to those making a lot of money or who visit very expensive restaurants.

Have anyone of you experienced something similar with your therapists?