I don’t think there is such a thing as “therapist persona”. They are just people like all of us. Therapists I know are no different than anyone else I know.

I also have never heard that Christian value is not to spend money or not wanting money. I don’t think Christians must deny themselves pleasures of life, as long as they didn’t steal that money

I think one can be a great person yet have money and eat in fancy restaurants. And one could be poor and eat modestly and yet be a total jerk with low morals. One thing has nothing to do with another.

People work, make money, then they want to spend on things or eat fancy. Why is it a problem. It’s not an indication of low morals or being fake.

Now of course if she verbatim told you that it’s wrong to eat in restaurants and then you ran into her in the restaurant, then she is a hypocrite. But if she simply attends church and is a therapist, then eating in fancy restaurants or buying nice things is not against her faith or professional standards.

In addition if she and her husband both work, it’s possible going to expensive restaurants is just not that big of a deal. It’s not like they go and buy an island. Although even that is ok if they have the money.