Hi Everyone,

It's been awhile since I posted. I've been mostly ok and fortunately my cancer hasn't returned afaik. I read recently that parents with bipolar disorder have a much higher risk of having a child with adhd than parents without bipolar. Indeed this is the case for me.

I have bipolar and my son has adhd and recently moved from Canada for a job in the US. He also has a type of glaucoma that affects young people and I have been reminding him for the past 3 or 4 months that he needs to get in to see a glaucoma specialist since he's supposed to have a check up every 6 months to adjust his eye drops if necessary or go to surgery if necessary.

Well he hasn't been able to do that. Today when I asked him again if the glaucoma clinic had called him back with an appointment he said he had forgot the name of the clinic so he'd have to start all over, get a new gp and get a new referral which would take many months. This was absurd. He wasn't making sense.

I sent him again the link to the glaucoma clinic i had sent him months ago and he said that their number wasn't in his phone, so I suggested he call his gp and find the name and number of the glaucoma specialist he had been referred to. He answered that it takes months to get an appointment to see his gp so he wouldn't do that. Again he wasn't making sense. I reminded him that he could get the name and number of the eye doctor who the gp referred him to on the phone from his gp without an appointment. We went back and forth on this for over an hour and he finally called his gp and got a number.

When he tried to call that number for the eye doctor he said that their phone system wasn't accepting his key presses so he had no way to reach this doctor and would have to get a new gp and a new eye doctor referral, repeating what he had suggested the first time when he said he didn't recall the eye clinic he had been in contact with . So I called that number and had no problem navigating their phone menu with key presses and told him that. Again he wasn't making sense.

After several hours of trying he said he was able to reach this doctor's receptionist who said the reason they hadn't called him to schedule an appointment had something to do with templates, whatever that means. He still doesn't have an appointment though. He said they would call him within 48 hours to schedule an appointment but I doubt this will happen.

After he told me he couldn't reach his eye doctor on the phone because their system wasn't recognizing his key presses I got in touch with my sister in the US and asked for her to help because I didn't think he could manage to schedule an appointment with an eye doctor there. After 3 or 4 months he still doesn't have an appointment and everything he said today convinced me he was out of his depth and overwhelmed with the task, if not descending into mental illness.

When I told him i had reached out to my sister to help him he became furious with me and has been sending me angry text messages full of swearing and insults ever since. I put him on mute. He said I should have asked his permission to do that. I replied that I found him to be highly irrational and didn't see the point of asking him to make a rational decision to reach out to my sister today.

If he doesn't see an eye specialist regularly he could easily go blind. It's not something that can just be put off for years and I feel like he's destabilizing my mental health and I could end up back in the hospital with another psychotic episode. I am even wondering if he is just making stuff up and none of this actually happened. I am very disconcerted by his irrational thought process and inability to make an eye doctor appointment.