Thanks for your input and for sharing.
I donīt know how my former therapist acts in her life outside therapy so I donīt know how different she is in her behaviour from how she was together with me in the therapy room.
What I though reacted to is how her former jobs, within finance and restaurants is very far from her work within church and working as a therapist. The people working within finance is, as I see it, very different from those working with people and with people in need and hardship.
I guess the Christian values per se can be different depending on who you ask but as I saw my therapist, that doesnīt go along with working within fincance. What happened between her jobs and why she changed careers, I donīt know of but it still made me think of the therapist persona as something different from who the people behind this persona are like.
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Originally Posted by Lonelyinmyheart
It sounds like your therapist wasn't congruent - as in, she wasn't true to how she really is in her daily life and instead took on a separate identity as a 'therapist.;
Not every T does that. Mine is genuine and authentic and true to herself. How she is with me is exactly how she is in her life, she just uses skills with me that she doesn't use with her family and friends. She shares stuff about herself, albeit within reason. She doesn't pretend she's someone she's not. I know she has struggled massively in her life and in some ways continues to. She is a humanistic therapist and this approach highlights the importance of being real with clients, not putting on a false front.
Obviously there needs to be a balance as people may not want to see a therapist who doesn't appear professional enough for their liking or who openly shares certain things. Also, the therapist-client relationship is so incredibly important for the work to be helpful.
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