OK. I've thought a lot more about all this. I've read the article from sarahsweets too, thanks for it again @sarahsweets !

I have a question too about it. I've dutifully read through the 65 items of what it is like in an emotionally abusive relationship.

And the question is: What's the main difference between these two items? How do I differentiate between them?

"46. Stonewalling
Your partner ignores you, gives you the silent treatment and refuses to discuss what’s wrong. They keep you guessing and begging for their attention."

"52. They ignore you or stop talking to you for days
This could be while in a fight or even if you’re not fighting. Emotionally abusive partners will often check out of the relationship completely and just ignore you for days even if you’re not in an argument about anything."

Thanks anyone for any response.