Brief back story - I was adopted and recently got back in touch with my siblings. It’s very early days (as in, just started talking before Christmas) and I casually mentioned to my friend in a text conversation that I hadn’t heard from my sister (main contact) this week, along with talking about stuff to do with moving house. I’m moving out of my mum’s house, just want to have one more survey done on the flat, but nobody is getting back to me about actually getting it done as a last resort I’ve asked the estate agent to try and get something done on my behalf. I’m getting fed up of chasing everyone up, now.

Friend basically said “don’t bother about your sister, you’ve got your new home and life to think about” and said go through solicitor to get the survey done. I don’t think the solicitor can do anything, it’s up to me to arrange it. And it just kind of stung how she was so dismissive about my sister. She knows having contact with my bio family is important to me; I reiterated that we’re taking things slow and I was just a little disappointed I didn’t hear anything this week. Seems she misinterpreted what I meant about my sister not emailing and has written her off as another person I don’t need. She was similar about our ex mutual friend - we were both being treated badly by the end - who I did cut off last new year’s, but it needed to happen anyway. No regrets.
This friend and I aren’t super close, don’t meet regularly but do enjoy each other’s company when we do get together. I’m thinking that she might not be a great fit for me, though. She came with me to get a supplement my counsellor had recommended when we met last time, and offered a very critical, unsolicited opinion about that, as well as questioning why I signed a petition beforehand. I’m tired of my choices, opinions and decisions not being simply heard/respected by my friends/family lately.

Have also had subtle digs/put-downs and questions about how I’m going to manage to live alone, and comments about how if the purchase falls through, I still have to pay fees and stuff, from my mum. I know. I’ve been through everything with the mortgage broker, including a monthly affordability plan. The finances are all in hand. I have told mum this more than once, too, but it doesn’t feel like she’s listening, as she still brings it up sometimes. I get she worries, but how to reassure her when she’s not accepting what I’m telling her?
Some of you might also remember a thread I posted last year, basically Toilet Lid-Gate - I accidentally broke our toilet lid (and in case you’re wondering, it wasn’t by standing on it! ) owned up to it and she still looked for someone else to blame (conversely, she has also blamed me for stuff I haven’t done in the past).